Can you imagine a utopian world – one where you never have to worry about anything?
Without the ups and downs, it’s difficult to imagine the courses our lives would take. The tough times in our lives are as important as the good ones. But not everyone understands this.
Not everyone can endure those difficult times. Nowadays, it’s quite common to hear of a young person who committed suicide because of a problem that could be handled.
Or people who take to alcohol, drugs or engage in other toxic habits that only push them closer to their deaths. It’s time we all learned to how to manage the pressures of life.
So, what do you do when one of life’s arrows hit you?
- Don’t panic
Yes. Don’t panic. It’s not the end of the world. You feel like you’re trapped. The whole world is against you. Many people make irrational decisions when in such a state. You wouldn’t want to do something you’ll regret later, right?
When you’re faced with a problem, sit back and keep your calm. Think about your situation. Is it something you can remedy? Could you have prevented it? What actions can you take to start feeling better about it? Asking yourself such questions will enable you to assess the situation much better.
- Find solutions
One of my friends was fired from his job a few months ago. It was abrupt. Everything was going well then, boom! He receives a termination letter through email. He was depressed about it, especially because he was doing okay. He was one of the best employees at his company.
He sunk into depression. He started binge drinking to drive away his troubles. So much that he wasn’t able to pay his rent the third month after the firing and he was kicked out. This jolted him back to reality.
He stopped drinking and stared working on himself. He polished his CV and started applying to jobs and networking. After one month, he secured a great job. That wouldn’t have happened if he had not stopped drinking.
“Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.”
– Napoleon Hill
- Ask for help
There are problems you can handle alone. Others you can’t. You have to confide in someone who cares about you. The game of life is played well when you’re part of a team. When you go solo, the problems may overwhelm you and it could be too late to pull you out of the gutter.
This however, doesn’t mean pestering everyone whenever an issue arises. Assess the situation to see if you can carry the load by yourself.
Asking for help may hurt your ego but sometimes that’s the best decision you can make. It will help you avoid a lot of pain. And at the end of it all, you will be grateful to people who helped you through those trying times.
- Learn from it
We hate to remember the tough times. But the lessons they teach us always remain. My friend wouldn’t have learnt that drinking everyday wasn’t the solution. It was only after seeing the damage that it did to him that he decided to take action. I’m quite sure the next time he loses his job, he won’t find comfort in bottles of beer.
When the floods have gone, always ask yourself what you can learn from it. Maybe things will never be the same again but at least you emerged a stronger person.
“The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.”
– Nelson Mandela
No matter how much we try, life will never be smooth. There’ll always be something that pushes us out of the comfort zone. Problems that make us cry in pain. If you follow the steps above, you will always overcome and emerge victorious. Think of life as a race where you have to jump over hurdles in order to survive. And no hurdle is too high for you.